Friday, May 23, 2014

Two New, Good Things

hello, lovely

For the past month, I've been taking Zinashi to have some brain mapping done. For some people, this mapping works as well as the treatment that usually occurs after the mapping is completed. It appears that Zinashi may be one of those people. The process is a type of neurofeedback called LENS. I can't give a full report yet, but the improvements we've seen already have been enough to make me a believer in its efficacy. If we only see the effects that we've seen so far, then I will consider it worth it, but I am hopeful that this will be helpful to Zinashi beyond just these gains. Tonight I want to share two amazing things that Zinashi has done lately that give me hope that we can help her brain heal from trauma using this method.

1. Before we started LENS, Zinashi had slept in her own bed all night maybe a handful of times. Maybe. I can think of three times, total. Almost every night in the past, she would wake in the middle of the night, terrified, and come running into our room to spend the rest of the night near us. Since starting the LENS brain mapping, she has been sleeping all night in her bed more than 50% of the time, and with each LENS session, she spends more nights in a row in her bed all night. This has been amazing for her; she feels so proud of herself. Not only has she been getting better sleep, but her confidence is boosted.

2. Zinashi has never reacted appropriately to spilling liquids. She would immediately go into fight/flight/freeze. The container was never set upright after it tipped over; she would either stare at it, unable to move and do anything about it, or she would become very agitated, as if it were an emergency. We'd worked with her on what to do, and she could do it when we practiced, but in that moment, when an unplanned spill occurred, she could never figure it out. It was a trigger for her. 
Today I heard her rummaging around in the kitchen while Elvie was napping and I was replying to some emails. She seemed to be in a bit of a hurry; I could hear her walking to the pantry and back across the kitchen quickly. I walked in to find her mopping up water that she'd spilled while cleaning up her painting supplies. The cup had already been set upright so no more would spill out, and she had easily contained the spilled liquid.
I am feeling really encouraged lately when it comes to being able to help Zinashi find peace and experience less fear. I feel like we are on the right track. We're going to keep going with this process. I will let you know how it all works out.

11 comments:

  1. Woah. That is some heavy progress! I am so very glad that you happened upon this treatment!

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  2. I am fascinated! Awesome you found something that seems to be working.

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  3. Great progress for her. And please tell her that I love her headband and wish I had one just like it.

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  4. I cannot believe you are sharing such private information about your daughter, and labeling her by name and photographs for the world to see. I refuse to read it. I respect her too much as a human being.

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    1. I have Zinashi's permission to use her name and tell about what has helped her. She wants other parents to have the information to help their kids, and to know that what she struggles with is normal for her circumstances. I wouldn't write about it without asking her first. I've stated this in other posts but did not state it explicitly here. Apologies for omitting that information.

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    2. So anon troll, if you refuse to read it, how can you comment on what has or has not been shared? If only you and your fellow trolls just had too much respect to even read and leave your nasty comments! And seriously, welcome to planet earth, where parents have been debating how to deal with their children's sleep or lack thereof for centuries. Surely you can find a blog by someone who actually is exploiting their kids to go troll? There actually are tons of them, but this isn't one.

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  5. She is a MINOR.

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    1. Yes, and my husband and I have the final call in what we share, as we are her parents. I do not share quite a lot of what she says she would like me to tell people. She would share her entire story, but we don't feel that's appropriate. We are trying to balance her desire for others to know what adoption is like for her and what has helped her with preserving her privacy. She wants to have a voice. If it were just me talking, only from my perspective, then I would be leaving out the most important voice of all, hers.

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  6. Do me a favor, post this in the Transracial Adoption fb group and ask the adult adoptees how they feel about what you are sharing. If you truly believe what you are doing is alright, then you should have no problem checking yourself before exploiting your child.

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    1. I don't mind checking myself at all - I do have personal contact with adult adoptees, but do not have a personal FB account. I am more than happy to ask them what is okay and not okay.

      Also, if you would please leave a name, I would appreciate it. Thanks!

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  7. I hope you will write more about Neurofeedback. I am really intrigued and think this could be helpful to my son.

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